Chapter 3 of 5

Creating Shared Experiences

Relationship intimacy grows through shared experiences. Distance doesn't eliminate this—it just requires creativity.

Virtual Dates

  • Movie dates: Watch together using sync apps
  • Cooking together: Same recipe, video call
  • Game nights: Online games, card games via cam
  • Walking dates: Video call while both walking
  • Reading together: Same book, discuss chapters
  • Working alongside: Body doubling via video
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Key Insight

The activity matters less than the intentionality. Eating dinner on video call while talking feels more like a date than it sounds.

Physical Connection Across Distance

  • Send handwritten letters
  • Care packages with meaningful items
  • Matching items (jewelry, clothes, objects)
  • Scented items (perfume/cologne on a shirt)
  • Surprise deliveries (food, flowers, gifts)
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The Surprise Plan

Plan a surprise for your partner this week—a delivery, a letter, or something unexpected that arrives in their physical world.

Shared Projects

Working toward something together creates connection:

  • Planning your next visit together
  • Learning a skill together (language, instrument)
  • Fitness challenges together
  • Planning future life together (home, travel)
  • Creative projects (playlist, photo album, blog)

Involving Each Other's Lives

  • Introduce each other to friends via video
  • Share daily photos—mundane is okay
  • Give virtual tours of new places
  • Include them in small decisions
  • Keep them updated on your world
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Being far apart doesn't mean you can't be present in each other's lives. With intention, you can share everything but physical space.

Maintaining Intimacy

  • Fall asleep on video call together
  • Send loving messages and voice notes
  • Be vulnerable about missing them
  • Celebrate milestones and achievements
  • Create rituals unique to you
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The Date Schedule

Schedule one virtual "date" this week. Plan it like a real date—specific time, activity planned, distractions eliminated.

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Key Insight

LDR couples often know each other more deeply because they're forced to connect through conversation and creativity rather than just physical presence.

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